dilly dilly

observations and explanations
2005-02-09 12:37 pm

db and i successfully spent 4 entire days and nights together without even a hint of irritation. not that this is new. we get along incredibly well and tend to inspire far more bliss than irritation. but im always grateful when long periods of time can be spent together without the world collapsing.

id call it perfect planning on our part - the vermont trip was during my moon, which makes a grand difference in my disposition. the week prior to my moon feels a bit like living hell to me... as if the whole planet is actually TRYING to piss me off. although db insists that im not nearly as monsterly as i imagine myself to be. thats a relief.

visiting with other people's friends and family can be quite trying for me. there is all of the catching up between the members with "how is so-and-so?" and "have you seen whats-her/his-name?" and "did you hear about this-and-that?"

then there is all the getting to know the new visitor with "so, what do you do?" and "what do your parents do?" and "how does your family celebrate xyz?" fortunately, this visit did not coincide with any major holiday or celebration, so we downright skipped all related q&a. oddly, it just occurred to me that we didn't talk about me at all. except that i like to make things.

it can also be a serious challenge to navigate the often disfunctional dynamics of a whole new family. however, i was rather surprised to find that this family, which must be disfunctional in some way, was rather relaxed, thoughtful, kind, pleasant, easy going, and interesting. who knew?

there wasnt that tedious bickering that usually happens between the parental units, and often between parent and child. this dynamic leaves me irritated and exhausted.
everyone said interesting and thought provoking things. which meant i wasn't bored out of my mind
and was actually able to follow most conversations between db and his mom

there are at least 4 good reasons for B and C.

db actually talks about his life, his experiences, and his *gasp* feelings.
db is still friends with most of his high school friends, so ive actually heard about many and met several of them. i like that they are still active parts of each others lives.
i am quite captivated by db and the things he talks about b/c he's so incredibly brilliant and amazing (as i see him).
db's mom is thoughtful, intelligent and not overly superficial... i dont think we discussed clothing, sales, or money the whole time.

all 4 of these things combined make for interesting conversations, even if im merely listening.

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previously:
weather or not - 2006-03-07
My Flight - 2006-03-02
poetree in motion - 2006-02-28
ultimate personality test - 2006-02-25
limerick e-trip - 2006-02-22