sexuality, part 2... biphobic
2004-05-30 12:40 pm
detour...
im grapling with sterotypes of bisexuals and my own biphobia here...
i identify as Lesbian, but i cant think of a single person who wouldnt label me bisexual if i explained myself to them. fortunately, there is no need to explain myself to anyone... but for the sake of good old fashioned self-discovery i feel the need to explore this.
why am i biphobic?
- is it the stereotypes of bisexuals that turns me away from identifying as such? stereotypes: greedy, slutty, dirty, diseases, steal your honey.
- is it a question of homo-authenticity? in the gay/lesbian community many believe that you are either straight or gay and there is no in between. if you're bi, you're really just a straighty trying to be "in", or gay/lesbian who just hasnt fully made it over the fence yet. 100% is the only option - otherwise you're not "real"
- is it because id lose all my gay friends? no one wants you if you're not 100% b/c you "dont experience all the perils of being 100%". no joke.
- is it a question of being overlooked by heteros? i cant imagine going home with a guy and having my family completely forget that i love women. would they think being gay had been a phase? would they assume i went straight? would i feel the need to talk about being gay constantly just to make sure they didnt forget or overlook the gay community?
...end detour
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previously:
weather or not - 2006-03-07
My Flight - 2006-03-02
poetree in motion - 2006-02-28
ultimate personality test - 2006-02-25
limerick e-trip - 2006-02-22